Julie Lythcott-Haims Shares Her Ideas to Help Parents. How to Raise Successful Kids. By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren’t actually helping. At least, that’s how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children’s success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all. Watch this TED.com segment to learn more about Julie Lythcott-Haims and her ideas to help parents and kids.